About perfection, well no one is perfect for each and all alike. The definition of perfection varies. But you have to be perfect in your eyes, the way you define perfection.

I guess it is a different feeling when you know that you don’t have to pretend to be someone. That there is a person present who appreciates the way you are. And I guess that is that feeling of being loved. As in case of one’s Mom !!

And definitely

“More importantly, the bond becomes a personality of its own, beyond the two individuals you are.”

is a statement which carries huge weight in itself.

I guess it would be a quest for all humans to define what love is, and still we won’t conclude. For love, cannot be defined on reason. Its just there !!

This discussion reminds me of Munna’s ‘chemical locha.’ Research and studies have already proved that all kinds of emotions are some kind of a trigger in our brains, thus making love, hatred, jealously, anger products of chemical reactions in our heads. But regardless of all the science and explanations, we continue to love, hate, envy and lose our tempers without thinking about them in retrospect. Remember what Nash said in the last reels of the movie, Beautiful Mind? He said, “What is logic? Who decides reason?”

I agree with Kid when he says, “I tend to like it when u r just getting to know the person…” I think that feeling at least lasts long in your memories. And I concur with Neha when she says if you still feel for someone after years of knowing the best and worst of him/her, you can safely call it love.

It is tricky to define love. Even “I love you” doesn’t make sense. Personally, this bond stays because you go beyond just connecting with another person, beyond feeling delighted in each other’s company, beyond appreciating the good in each other. This bond strengthens when you feel happy with each other, even after knowing the worst of each other, showing your worst behaviour or attitude, even after being the worst critic, even after intentionally hurting each other in a quarrel. However grim the situation may sound, you may be definite deep down that the attachment won’t change, that nothing will change, that the worst criticism is for your good, that bad words were spoken in just a fit of rage. If a smile or a hug or a pep talk or a shoulder offered by the other person can take you out of your deepest worry, you have the bond.

More importantly, the bond becomes a personality of its own, beyond the two individuals you are.

You know what, people keep chasing perfection all their lives, but perfection is in fact boring. Plus, wouldn’t one feel inferior with a PERFECT person as a partner? For me, normal is perfect. A bit of humanity is perfect.

Ok, that was a lot of blah blah. Guess no one’s gonna read this.

Just remembered something I read ages ago.
“I was looking for the perfect woman. Once I found one. Alas, she was looking for the perfect man!”

“When you tune your mind to like and accept the person with his/her flaws, it is called compromise.”
and other you are saying, and again quoting

“Love is when the other becomes a part of you. It’s not that “you have to be more ok with his/her flaws then his qualities”. It’s just that the flaws may not only be visible, also piercing but still you accept them because they are a part of the person who is a part of you.”

As far as I think, mere twisting of words doesn’t change the meaning. When you say “still you accept them because” is it not the same as saying “tune your mind to like and accept the person with his/her flaws”.

And I say you need to accept the flaws more than appreciate the qualities, simple because every one can live with the qualities but only the person who loves you, will love you despite the flaws.

Kid, I disagree with your original blog on love – “It is your mind that controls whether you fall in love or not… all you need to do is take interest, and give some space to that person in your thoughts. If you do that, and for sometime, you are bound to fall in love”

When you tune your mind to like and accept the person with his/her flaws, it is called compromise.

It may be that one may spend a lifetime trying to love someone and counting all the admirable features and yet may fail to go beyond liking. Another case may be that one may know all the faults and yet would love you and accept you with the faults. Believe it or not, a third case may be that you may hate a person for what he/she has done to you and at the same time be in love that person.

Love is when the other becomes a part of you. It’s not that “you have to be more ok with his/her flaws then his qualities”. It’s just that the flaws may not only be visible, also piercing but still you accept them because they are a part of the person who is a part of you.

A very simple example –

Who can be a better example than a mother? She knows you all the faults, faces all the troubles, tolerates the entire nuisance and yet she finds you as the best person in the world.

How come you say that your mom looks so beautiful even when the world feels otherwise? Well, it is just that all her unappealing habits are wrapped up in a colourful paper called love, which makes her seem so beautiful. And hence ‘they’ say – Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!

Difference between love and infatuation? Only love can stand the test of time and distance. Infatuation fades away! Again the same example, your mother may not have seen you for the last one or more year, and yet she will keep on worrying whether or not you are in good health and spirit. Whereas with infatuation, the more you find out about the person, the more common he/she seems, and sooner or later, you get bored.

One may argue that I have been giving the example of a mother throughout and it is NOT comparable with any other relationship. Ofcourse, that’s correct!!! Nothing can match the intensity of the love of a mother, but the justification is the same for all relationships!

I tend to like it when u r just getting to know the person, but once u know all the good qualities.. and then u see the cons.. (as no one is perfect)… there is a different turn altogether…and suddenly something start to irritate you.

No doubt, time is important….but thats not the sole thing. I guess time and communication.. is the foundation.. but at the end.. if you are willing to accept the flaw in the next person.. you are relationship is on a solid track….some amount of compromise…from both.. I guess help !!!