Care or Control !?
There is a difference in caring and controlling. Most people, when showing care end up ordering us. And if those orders are not followed, they end up getting hurt. If you insist that you don’t want to do those actions, which they think are good for you, you are termed as immature. You are termed as some one who doesn’t know how life works. Or someone who cannot differentiate what is good and what is not.
Defining a path for someone, and expecting them to follow. Yes, the path may be right, but the chance to make mistakes and learn from them has been taken away. This may make my life easier and for the same reason it makes my life less worthwhile.
Denying the choice of choosing and rigidly defining a path for us to follow does not improve our life. But empowering us to make decisions, in both easy and tough times alike helps us grow.
And the chance to make mistakes, helps us understand what we are worth. It helps us make more reasonable, rational and realistic decisions. And the earlier a person is exposed to these tough times, the more capable is that person to make tough choices and choose the right path.
All those who tell me what to do, thinking that I may not be aware, are always welcomed to voice their advices. But expecting that the advice given is followed each and every time as if they are the golden words.
I am sorry, but I cannot have you responsible for my life. And since I have to responsible for what happens in my life, I would rather make my own decisions !! (And the logic behind those decisions and choices may not necessarily be obvious !!). Thank You, But No Thank You !! I would rather decide my own path !!
People need to understand that there is a difference between controlling and caring !!
Can’t you see that you’re smothering me
Holding too tightly afraid to lose control
[Numb - Linkin Park]
Everybody needs breathing space and there are times when others may intrude it. Even people you care and love !!
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